7 Signs You’re a Good Boss

7 Signs You’re a Good Boss

Simon Sinek says “Leaders Eat Last.”
Scott McKain says “Leaders Eat With”  (🎧Hear “Iconic” author on my podcast)

How do you know you’re a good boss?

Some people will tell you. Others may not. It’s important to pay attention to the signs as 70% of workers who voluntarily resign don’t quit their job…they quit their boss. They leave bad cultures where they don’t feel valued, appreciated, and have a sense of belonging.

My featured guest article, written by Max Klein, helps you know how people perceive you and what great leadership looks like.

7 Signs You’re A Good Boss

 

People know if they bring you a problem you won’t lose your cool, shoot the messenger, or otherwise make them wish they hadn’t brought it up.

They know you won’t make the problem worse or more complicated. They aren’t afraid to walk into your office and openly discuss possible solutions.

They know you value the truth even when it’s hard to hear.

On the other hand, you’ve given them enough autonomy and latitude to make their own decisions and use initiative to solve most problems. So they’ll handle most things themselves but when they need help they’ll come to you.

This quote from General Colin Powell sums it up:

“Leadership is solving problems. The day soldiers stop bringing you their problems is the day you have stopped leading them. They have either lost confidence that you can help or concluded you do not care. Either case is a failure of leadership.”

 

You can be a feel-good rah-rah leader all you want, but if you have no clue what you’re doing operationally or technically, leadership skills will only get you so far.

The good news is, being a good leader is the tough part. If you’ve got that, you are most of the way there. You can learn technical skills anytime.

But good leaders do study their craft. They are always learning more about what the team, the company, and their people do. They ensure the team is well trained, including themselves.

Technical and tactical proficiency must be combined with solid leadership skills for leadership to be most effective.

“If you’re technically and tactically proficient, comply with Army standards and policies, and lead by example, you won’t have any problem. If you don’t, you’ll have problems with your soldiers. You can’t fool them. You never could, and you never will.” — SMA Glen E. Morrell

 

Insecure bosses hoard information and use it to feel more powerful.

They feel if they hold information people want or need or could grow from, they hold power over those people.

Good leaders are confident enough to share everything they know.

Of course, there is a need-to-know and there’s such thing as too much information sometimes, but generally, you should keep your people informed as much as possible about anything that could affect their job or company policies that may affect their personal lives.

“Information and ignorance are like light and darkness… When light comes into your room, darkness must fly away. When information rules your mind, ignorance finds its way out!”― Israelmore Ayivor

Anyone can hold the helm when the sea is calm.” — Publilius Syrus

You are adept at maintaining bearing and emotional control.

Of course, you aren’t a stoic, unemotional robot, but your mind and especially your behavior are never as chaotic as the situation around you.

People know you won’t melt down, explode, or otherwise lose all effectiveness in the face of adversity.

You may even be among those best of leaders who get better during adversity. They take that challenge and become more focused, more calm, and more emotionally controlled in order to meet the situation with the competence it needs for resolution.

“When a man is prey to his emotions, he is not his own master.”
Baruch Spinoza

 

A good leader is like a laxative in the bowels of business operations.

I could have come up with a better metaphor there as I’m sure your company doesn’t produce a crappy product, but you get the picture.

You can keep things moving operationally and knock out decisions relatively quickly but also wisely. Of course, you put due diligence and appropriate thought into each, but you don’t hesitate too long out of fear or lack of confidence.

You know a good decision now may be better than a perfect one too late.

“An ounce of performance is worth pounds of promises.” — Mae West

 

You know your team is your team.

You adopt an attitude of caring and support for even the most wayward and irritating team member.

You are unselfish you put your team’s welfare above yours and you always assume the best in them.

You publicly and privately credit them for success. You don’t let customers or other managers run all over them. You protect them from BS rolling down the hill.

“You’ve got to give loyalty down, if you want loyalty up.”— Donald T. Regan

 

This is perhaps the most important way to know if you are a good leader. Do you take complete ownership of everything that happens around you? For failures? For problems?

Or do you reflexively blame the economy, the customer, the weather, your management, policies, or worst of all your own team?

A great leader takes responsibility for everything that takes place in their world.

“The man who complains about the way the ball bounces is likely to be the one who dropped it.”— Lou Holtz

 

It’s tough to know how well you are doing as a leader, but if you have any of the qualities above chances are you are doing a good job.

The most important trait above is taking complete ownership. That is the prerequisite and foundation for good leadership.

But remember, “owning it all” doesn’t mean you own the successes.

Those belong to your team.

“While there is no guarantee of success in leadership, there is one thing that is certain: leading people is the most challenging and, therefore, the most gratifying undertaking of all human endeavors.” — Jocko Willink

Learn how to attract and retain great managers. Watch The Heart of CX podcast. I joined as a guest.

Learn more about  seeing the signs and ‘how attention pays.’

Watch my interview with Neen James.

 

5 Ways To Gain CX Buy-In From The Top-Down

5 Ways To Gain CX Buy-In From The Top-Down

In order to truly have a customer-centric culture, you need champions at the top who advocate and invest in customer experience (CX) resources, tools, and platforms. Likewise, customer satisfaction metrics need to be part of everyones’ objectives. Gaining buy-in from those who will impact the success of your efforts is not so easy. It takes patience, resilience, supporting data, and passion to stand up for what you believe in.

16 leaders across different industries share advice about developing a sustainability plan in a recent Forbes article.  Many of the actionable tips apply to building and keeping a customer-first culture. The following are some of my favorites from the list:

5 Ways To Gain CX Buy-In & Support from Top-Down:

1. Start With A Data-Driven Pilot Program

Company leaders are more likely to embrace new ideas when there is data behind the plan. Start with a pilot program, gather the facts, and then present the results to the decision-makers. If the initiatives prove to be valuable, executives will likely support and invest in the ideas. The “crawl, walk, run” approach always works for me. I believe it will for you too. – Stacy Sherman

2. Don’t Overpromise

It is better to have a realistic yet scalable plan than to start off with one that goes beyond your existing capabilities. Solid sustainability planning takes all prongs of environmental, social and governance (ESG) into consideration as avenues to improve and establish a plan that you can grow into sustainably. – Boaz Santiago, energyware

3. Align Operationally Across The Business

It’s important to align operationally across the business, especially when it comes to sales and marketing. This starts at the individual key performance indicator level and extends to forecasts, targets, and goals. Understanding how each KPI maps to the goals ensure that everyone is driving toward the same outcomes. Finally, clarity around roles and responsibilities is paramount in order to scale as efficiently as possible. – Jenny Coupe, ActiveCampaign

4. Listen To Employee Concerns And Needs

Listening to their employees about their key concerns, needs, and wants. Executing on those concerns—or even some of them—can help achieve greater buy-in if folks feel as if their concerns were considered, even if they weren’t fully realized at the end of the day. Organizations and leaders need to think in terms of community to achieve support. – Nina Mehta, VIACOM

5. Articulate Individual Roles And Incentives

To gain support, the purpose must be articulated in an impactful way. Each individual’s role in accomplishing the purpose must be articulated, and incentives must be aligned with the intended outcome. People need to feel a sense of connection to the mission and the organization, which must be reinforced through an incentive structure that reflects individual buy-in. – Kyle Scott, Lone Star College

Read the full Forbes article here. Tell me what you would add to the list.

Read more about getting CX Buy-In and support in my other Forbes article:

10 WAYS TO CRAWL, WALK, RUN YOUR WAY TO SUCCESS

Remember: Life is a journey. You cannot go from 0% to 100% goal attainment automatically or overnight. 

How To Create Unforgettable Experiences

How To Create Unforgettable Experiences

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There’s an old saying, happiness is a choice. Indeed, it is! Life gets so busy that we often forget to pause and think about how a simple gesture or interaction can move someone completely. We can intentionally be decision-makers seizing moments in ordinary places to deliver unforgettable experiences for customers, colleagues, friends, etc.

My guest, Ryan Estis, helps company leaders and individual contributors embrace change and achieve breakthrough performance. Most importantly, he teaches how to deliver unforgettable experiences. Ryan’s true stories will touch the core of your heart as he beautifully portrays a Starbuck barista, Lily, who “pours happiness” every day. Please watch the video of Ryan’s I’ll never forget that cup of coffee. During my interview with Ryan, we go behind the scenes of his story and discuss the simple secret to life-changing happiness.

Watch Stacy Sherman’s Interview on Youtube

 More About This Episode

We explore:

  • How Ryan Estis purposely makes an impact by prioritizing happiness and bringing out human potentials.
  • How to choose to show up and deliver unforgettable experiences
  • How we can be remembered by the people we work with today and as leaders (you don’t have “leader” in your job title to be one.)
  • Lastly, how to move past the fear of failure and become change makers.

Significant discoveries:

  • You can deliver unforgettable experiences when choosing to show up as the best version of yourself. Customers, colleagues, friends,  family members will see and feel your authenticity.
  • We can impact someone from ordinary roles in our everyday lives.
  • Meaningful human interaction with full attention is the key to being happy and making someone else happy too.
  • Our thoughtful choices have consequences that shape the world at large.
  • By increasing the level of self-consciousness, we will find ways to better contribute to our family, community, workplace, and society.
  • Personal leadership vision is to find how we can be remembered by people.
  • With failure comes feedback as a gift. Impactful changes happen as result.

Motivating quotes from this episode:

“What’s your secret to making these connections over serving coffee?

She corrected me, I’m not serving coffee, I’m pouring happiness into people’s lives.”

“When you decide to show up as the best version of who you are, it gives you an opportunity to meet people where they are.”

“You never know when someone needs you to be your best.”

“Decide how you show up because every choice has consequences that can change the world.”

“When you elevate self-awareness and level of consciousness to understand that impact, you get an opportunity to better contribute to your family, community, workplace, society, and the world in a significant way.”

“Whether you’re a boss or a leader to a young college graduate or someone who’s 50 years old, you have so much power to inspire them every day. Use your power to support others.”

“Leadership isn’t a job. It’s a responsibility and involves humility, sacrifice, service, love, and empathy. It’s about helping other people become the best version of who they are.”

“If you’re waiting for data to drive your decisions, you’re discounting the speed of the marketplace and your ability to connect with humans in authentic and meaningful ways. We aren’t computers.”

“We have to realize that failure is part of the journey. Feedback is a gift.”

 

Key Points about Delivering Unforgettable Experiences

[00:00:33] A bit about Ryan Estis and how he works to inspire people to become the best version of them

[00:03:24] The story of Barista Lily and how she pours happiness

[00:10:21] The importance of being intentional with the choices in life

[00:12:03] How to influence people from every aspect of life

[00:12:34] How leaders can really make an impact through actions, not just words

[00:13:32] Ryan’s true north leadership questions

[00:15:54] Is data the only driver of decision-making

[00:19:32] How we can overcome fear of failure

 

About Ryan Estis ~ Creating Unforgettable Experiences

Ryan Estis is a person who has the beautiful ability to tell stories and deliver unforgettable experiences. He is a motivating business leader, keynote speaker, writer, researcher, and management consultant. Ryan helps companies and individual contributors to embrace change and breakthroughs with their performances.

His energy-packed and powerful motivations, practical insights, and relevant stories change many minds. Ryan’s a passionate wake surfer, who worked with AT&T, Motorola, MasterCard, Adobe, MassMutual, the National Basketball Association, the Mayo Clinic, Honeywell, Thomson Reuters, Ernst & Young, Lowes, and Prudential. Ryan is an inspiring guy, who touches people’s hearts wherever he speaks and inspires others to do the same in and out of the workplace.

Website: https://ryanestis.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryanestis

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanestis/?hl=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RyanEstisSpeaker/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/ryanestis?lang=en

About Stacy Sherman: Founder of Doing CX Right®‬

An award-winning certified marketing and customer experience (CX) corporate executive, speaker, author, and podcaster, known for DoingCXRight®. She created a Heart & Science™ framework that accelerates customer loyalty, referrals, and revenue, fueled by engaged employees and customer service representatives. Stacy’s been in the trenches improving experiences as a brand differentiator for 20+ years, working at companies of all sizes and industries, like Liveops, Schindler elevator, Verizon, Martha Steward Craft, AT&T++.   Stacy is on a mission to help people DOING, not just TALKING about CX, so real human connections & happiness exist. Continue reading bio >here.

How Attention Pays™ for Productivity, Accountability & Profitability

How Attention Pays™ for Productivity, Accountability & Profitability

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We often forget how a simple action like paying attention can make our business stand out. When we pay intentional attention, we can offer far better customer and employee experiences. Although it sounds mundane, it is paying attention that drives productivity. Indeed, when we focus on what matters, we can be more effective and goal-oriented. And this mindset ultimately leads to increased profitability.

So, now you may be wondering what can you do differently each day to be more productive, accountable, and earn more profit? In this DoingCXRight®‬  podcast episode, a bold and sassy woman leader and author Neen James and I discuss WHO deserves your attention, WHAT matters most, and HOW you pay attention. We also talk about ways to show more empathy to employees because they are the first step to promising a stellar customer experience.

 We explore:

  • Why Neen James is passionate about getting people to pay attention and find out different angles to be productive and accountable to customers, teams, and oneself.
  • We also get to hear her different experiences about listening attentively, focusing on what matters and what drives the customer experience, and making businesses profitable for us leaders.

Significant discoveries:

  • Attention management is more important than time management
  • How accountability partners work and how we can be accountable to ourselves
  • Why empathy matters in customer experience
  • Why focussing on listening not replying is crucial to leadership success
  • How we can make the customer experience better through adding clarifications
  • How mental health awareness and habitual systems work in customer experience

Watch Stacy Sherman’s Interview on Youtube

Motivating quotes from this episode:

“Life’s not about time management. It’s about attention management, so you can’t manage time, but you can manage your attention.”

“I believe as leaders, we have to carve out time and space for people because empathy is a real thing. We need more of that in the workplace, but you can’t get more empathy without space and time to be able to slow down and feel. We need both.”

“To truly pay intentional attention, we have to listen with our eyes. Can’t be a great leader without doing so.”

“We need empathy because we can’t compare our situation to someone else’s. And, we can’t put out experience on someone others. We have to be in a place where we extend grace and kindness to everyone we meet. We never quite know what’s going on for another person.”

“We’re listening to respond rather than focussing on listening. We need to switch that to truly hear what someone’s saying.”

“Systems direct our attention. So, we need to create systems of attention because systems create freedom.”

Key talking points about paying attention

[00:01:28] About Neen James and her obsession with the whole idea of getting people to pay attention

[00:03:33] How to focus on what really matters

[00:05:05] Breakdown of three ways we pay attention and how it helps us

[00:09:19] How public accountability and personal accountability work

[00:15:09] How do you really make sure that you are very much engaging your attention in the right way and how you leverage your energy?

[00:17:00] Why we have to listen with our eyes and what that means for us as leaders

[00:18:13] Why we need empathy for both team-leading and enhancing customer experience, especially during / post-Covid-19 pandemic

[00:28:57] Actionable advice for CEOs, business owners as well as the younger generation about paying attention

About Neen James ~How Attention Pays

Neen James is a leadership expert and high-energy keynote speaker who prioritizes focusing on what matters most in people’s lives. This sassy woman leader, speaker, author, and executive strategist helps people deliver better experiences by one very key action, which is paying attention.

She’s an energetic and witty person who can easily grab the audience’s attention and facilitate them in applying practical strategies to get them to their goals. Undoubtedly, Neen is the perfect fit for consulting businesses and helps them deliver better customer experiences with her systems thinking, development and learning approaches.

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About Stacy Sherman: Founder of Doing CX Right®‬

An award-winning certified marketing and customer experience (CX) corporate executive, speaker, author, and podcaster, known for DoingCXRight®. She created a Heart & Science™ framework that accelerates customer loyalty, referrals, and revenue, fueled by engaged employees and customer service representatives. Stacy’s been in the trenches improving experiences as a brand differentiator for 20+ years, working at companies of all sizes and industries, like Liveops, Schindler elevator, Verizon, Martha Steward Craft, AT&T++.   Stacy is on a mission to help people DOING, not just TALKING about CX, so real human connections & happiness exist. Continue reading bio >here.

How To Hug Your Haters & Make Customers Love Your Brand

How To Hug Your Haters & Make Customers Love Your Brand

Press Play To LISTEN To Jay Baer

explain why & how to hug your haters

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Episode Summary:

Do you “hug your haters and love your promoters?” Jay Baer, 6x author, and Hall of Fame speaker reminds business leaders that “customers are your partners.” Too many companies invest a lot of money to acquire new clients instead of focussing on making the current ones volunteer marketers.

During this episode, you will hear Jay Baer share his wisdom about customer experience and actionable tips that you can apply to bring positive changes to your business. He encourages you to stop whining about customers that give bad reviews, and instead, hug them for helping you become better at what you do.

Key Talking Points:

[01:45] Getting to know Jay Baer

[02:37] What makes Jay passionate about marketing and customer experience

[04:53] The synergy between politics and customer experience

[07:15] Jay’s book: Love your Haters

[08:55] How to hug our haters

[13:01] How to love your promoters

[20:22] Jay’s view on separating customer experience from marketing

[24:04] Tips on how to start hugging haters

[28:58] Key takeaway for business leaders

[29:58] Jay’s message to his younger self

Inspiring Quotes From The Episode:

“Your unhappy customers are your most important customers. But we almost invariably treat them as if they are our least important customers.”

“A customer you ignore is a customer you should be prepared to lose.”

“There is a material increase in advocacy if you answer a customer who has a problem, even if you can’t fix it.”

“Word of mouth is still the least appreciated concept in all of business, which is remarkable.”

“You literally cannot be great at customer experience, unless you are first great at employee experience.”

“When you don’t empower your employees, every little thing takes three layers of management to investigate and all of that is a cost to the organization.”

“Retaining your current customers, and turning them into volunteer marketers, is a much more important course of action than getting new customers. Retention and word of mouth are far better opportunities than new customer acquisition.”

About Jay Baer:

He is a seventh-generation entrepreneur, author of six bestselling books on marketing and customer experience. Jay is the founder of five multimillion-dollar companies. Presently, he is the founder of Convince and Convert, a global consulting firm that helps many of the world’s most iconic brands. Also, he is a professional speaking Hall of Fame and the word-of-mouth marketing Hall of Fame and host of a podcast called social prose, which is about enterprise social media marketing.

Website: https://www.jaybaer.com/

Check out Jay’s Books: https://www.jaybaer.com/